INSPIRATIONAL MUSINGS 13 Mental Strength Is All You Need

— Vince Lombardi

People have asked this same question many times "How can I succeed in life?" The answer has always been the same, to succeed depends on how tough you are because life will throw many stones at you, and your ability to s.h.i.+eld yourself from these stones mentally will determine how far you will go.

A lot of people slid into depression in 2016 in Nigeria because of the economic recession, an empty wallet or the inability to pay one's bills can trigger mental anxiety, but the difference between winners and quitters most times is the level of mental toughness displayed by same people in same situations. That is why you must always train your mind to accept and adjust appropriately when things don't pan out as planned.

This year, in 2017 you must build your mental strength to succeed and redefine your story. It is a lie to think things will work exactly as planned, so you must be ready psychologically to face challenges this year, and for the successful ones, you also need a required degree of mental toughness to manage your success.

People keep asking for ways to build mental toughness, I will recommend five ways and break them down effectively.

1. You must understand and accept the concept of TIME. There's a time for everything in life, either to build or to heal. If you want to build a house there's a required time even if you have all the resources at hand, so don't be discouraged when things don't happen as quickly as you wish, give it time, just maintain focus. For the ones going through one mental torture or the other, remember there's a time to heal and you must continue to exist around the people and things that encourage you till you heal completely.

2. You do not need anyone's VALIDATION.

Most of us go through life seeking acceptance of whatever we do from someone or some people, in the process we create a mental block, and we now grow based on their approval or acceptance. We limit ourselves to a growth rate accepted by these people. This for me is the first enemy of a healthy mental state. To rise above the ashes of failure, delays, defeat, pain or loneliness you have to find positive means acceptable to you and not of another person to achieve it. Many dreams have faded away because some people so wanted someone's approval for so long and it never materialized. No one can help you but yourself, no one will advise you to succeed at what they failed to achieve. Please note this.

3. Surround yourself with ACHIEVERS. If there's anyone you need in your quest for mental toughness this year, it is someone who has walked the path you are currently threading and has come out victorious. That is the kind of people you must surround yourself with this year. Their counsel isn't absolute but it's worthy to be considered and probably developed upon. If you have a toothache, who do you go to? Is it not a dentist? If you go to a cobbler, then you definitely have an idea of how that will end. Because achievers are a group of tough people who probably had gone through worse things than you are going through, people who have moved mountains, they will encourage you to succeed, either with their words or actions.

4. HOPE for the best always.

Hopelessness is the reason why many people lose the will to fight on. When hope is lost, defeat is inevitable. To be tough mentally, to remain strong in your thoughts and actions despite current challenges, you must build your hope platform to an acceptable level. The hope I am referring to here is the unwavering belief that you will experience a positive outcome at the end notwithstanding. To continue to stay hopeful you have to follow a code, a pattern that will encourage you rather than discourage you. Many things help one to remain hopeful, but one of the most important one is to always be around people who are travelling on the same journey with you. Look for mentors and co-builders. Whether in your career, business, profession etc., always walk with like minds. It emboldens you. That's why wolves move in packs, together they achieve tasks quickly and faster. You also must cultivate the habit of reading biographies and tributes written about great men and women who helped the cause of humanity through one wonderful initiative or the other, this will renew your hope daily that you can be successful as well.

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5. Support and give to a worthy CAUSE.

Nothing strengthens your resolve more than joining or starting a worthy cause, especially when it touches lives and eases pain. What it does for you is to give you an inner strength that you can achieve the unthinkable. Words of encouragement and prayers from beneficiaries will let you

realize that life is more important than the challenges facing you. It will also give you hope that there is a brighter tomorrow. What people need to know about giving is that you draw strength more than pain from the act. The most important thing about giving is that it encourages you to never give up, when you make it a habit to give you will be motivated to work more so you can have more resources to touch lives, in the process success will become a habit.