All the Days of My Life: An Autobiography Part 41

I was nearly thirty-nine years old when I became a student at the Astor and began a life so different from the lives I had lived in Glasgow, Chicago, Austin and Galveston, that I might have been born again for it. Virtually, I was reborn. In that great and terrible alembic of pestilence and death through which I was pa.s.sed in Galveston, all the small delights and frivolities of my life vanished; and I came out of its fires, holding firmly to one adequate virtue in their place--henceforward to be through all the days of my life, an all competent motive, and an all sufficient reward--the homely virtue of duty. And I have never regretted this exchange though at first I found, as all the servants of duty must do,

"That they who follow her commands, Must on with heart, and knees, and hands, Through the long gorge, the upper light to win.

But still the path is upward, and once The toppling crags of Duty scaled, the soul Stands clear upon the s.h.i.+ning table lands, To which our G.o.d himself is moon and star."

For moral and spiritual gifts are bought, and not given. We pay for them in some manner, or we go empty away. It is _every day duty_ that tells on life. Spiritual favors are not always to be looked for, and not always to be relied on. After the glory of Mt. Tabor, the disciples were not willing to go to Calvary with Christ. They forsook him and fled.

In my little home of three rooms, things were not uncomfortable; we made the best of what we had, and we found out how few are the real necessities of life, and how much we could do without, and yet be happy enough. For if the heart is young, nothing is too hard; and when these meagre days were over, we often talked of the good time we had had in them. For if love be of your company, I declare poverty to be an exquisite experience. We found out then the heart of love, and of many other things; she taught us economy and self-denial, for we would all have wanted rather than have let Alice miss any of her small desires. She did her best to give us some knowledge of life, but with myself she did not succeed very well. I was so hopeful, that I would not foresee evil, and as yet I fully trusted humanity. Moreover, I had so often been wonderfully helped in great anxieties, that I could not believe the time would ever come when the hard eye of misfortune

"... would not know it vain, To empty what heaven brimmed again."

Soon after we were fairly settled, just as we were sitting down to supper one night, Mary opened the door. With a cry of pleasure I made a place for her chair between myself and Alice, and as I did so, I got a glimpse of my daughter, that I have never forgotten, nor ever shall forget. She was then in her nineteenth year, a tall graceful girl in a long dark costume, and a soft gray beaver hat. Her hands were out-stretched, her face s.h.i.+ning with love, and I had a sudden great pride and pleasure in her beauty and affection. She is now sixty years old, and of course changed in every way, but nothing can deprive me of this soul photograph of her, while the dew of youth, and the glory of family affection transfigured her. I know this, because I have been thrice since to the very shoal of Time, and turning back to life again, have brought that picture back with me. If I had not turned back, it would have gone with me.

In a moment she was sitting at my side, and Lilly had brought her a cup and plate, and was serving her with smiles and exclamations of pleasure. But at that moment Mary cared little for food. She had Alice within her arm, and was kissing her small lifted face with the tenderest affection. Then she turned to me. "Mamma!" she cried, "let me come home! I want to come home! While you were fifty miles away, I could bear it; but now that you are almost in the next street, I cannot endure to be away from you."

"I would like you to be at home, Mary," I answered. "It would be a great joy to all of us. But the Sykes' have been very kind to you, and you cannot treat them badly."

"Dear Mamma! I would not do so for any reason. But they are going on a trip out West, and railway traveling makes me ill. Mrs. Sykes knows this, and she says she hopes Lilly will go to help her with the children."

"I would like to go!" Lilly cried with enthusiasm. "I would like nothing better."

The discussion of this subject made the evening very interesting; and it was finally decided that Lilly should go with the Sykes family, and Mary remain at home. And I may add here, that the glamour of the Great West so infatuated the child, that she has been haunted by its vastness and its promises to this very day. To go West, far far West, has been the dream of her life--a dream that has never come true. But if it had come true, what then? Who can tell? I have always found that the things I planned, desired, and worked for, if they came at all, brought with them disappointment and regret; while those that came to me unsought and unexpected proved to be the very things I needed most of all.

Before Christmas Lilly was home again, but by this time I had made up my mind that I could not be parted from my children any more. We must stay together. G.o.d could care for us in one family, as well as in two.

How faithless I had been to doubt this! So after Lilly had partially exhausted her delightful enthusiasm about her journey, and I saw that the clock was traveling up-hill to midnight, I told them so.

"Dear ones!" I said, "we will not separate any more. I will work a little harder, and there is plenty in the home here, for you both to do. Lilly will keep house, and look after our meals, and Mary----"

"O Mamma!" Mary interrupted, "there is all the winter sewing yet to do. Rent a sewing-machine, and Mary will make warm dresses for us all."

"Can you, dear?" I asked.

"I could make a dress pretty well, when I went to Mrs. Sykes. I learned a great deal while I was there. She frequently had a dressmaker in the house, and then I helped her, and so learned a great deal. I can make our dresses as well as any ordinary modiste."

"That will be a great help to us," I said, "and one, or the other of you, will find time every fine day to give Alice a walk, and when she is able, to hear her read."

Both girls eagerly accepted their duty to their sick sister, and Mary said, with an excitement not very common with her, "I vote, Mamma, that we stay together, and fight the battle of life out on that line."

"And you, Lilly, what do you say?"

"Let us stay together, even if we live on bread and water."

I was the proudest and happiest mother in the world at that moment, and I answered joyfully, "You are right, dears, we will fight the battle out on this line."

"What a game it will be!" cried Lilly. "All of us for Mamma, and Mamma for all of us! We shall win! No doubt of it!"

And that night as I lay silently happy and thoughtful, with the children sleeping at my side, the grand old rallying cry of a famous English school wherever gathered for honorable strife, suddenly rung in my ears,

"_Play up! play up! and play the game!_"

For more than twenty years I had not heard it, but at that moment it pealed and pealed, and pealed through my consciousness, as if all the bells of Kendal Church were ringing it. Over and over I heard it. My heart beat to its shrill music, my fingers tattooed it on the bed cover, I could hardly lie still. Why had it come to me at this hour? I had forgotten it for so long--so long. Doubtless its memory had been evoked by Lilly's cheerful resolute exclamation, "What a game it will be!" For it was easy for me to unconsciously think of this brave child, playing up any good or honorable game of life, to the last moment of that great game, when

"Death holds the odds, Of his unequal fray."

And "if a woman is game as she is mild, and mild as she is game," a late great writer says, "that should satisfy any of us."

Many and many a time since that happy hour, in straits of all kinds, I have been encouraged and strengthened by this plucky rallying cry of English schoolboys, and I have said to my failing spirit, "Now, Amelia, the game is hard, and the odds are against you, but you cannot sneak out because of that. '_Play up! play up! and play the game!_'"

About six weeks ago, I felt as if I really must give up. I had been writing for five years without even a day's rest, and my present task of recalling, and _feeling_ the past all over, had thoroughly exhausted me. "I can do no more," I said, and with old, tired eyes, full of unshed tears--for old eyes dare not weep--and a sad heart, scarcely beating, I fell upon my bed, and was at once in a deep sleep.

I was awakened by a crowd of schoolboys from Professor Stone's school which is just above my house. They were singing or chanting all together some school slogan. I know not what, but it awoke in my soul, the old battle cry of the cla.s.ses on their English playground,

"_Play up! play up! and play the game!_"

And the cheerful, resolute noise was like old wine to my heart. I rose confidently, and went to my study and wrote for nearly three hours without any feeling of weariness. In that time, I got over the hard bit of road, that had so discouraged me, and the next morning I could sit down cheerfully at my desk, and repeat my usual grace before writing:

"_I say to my Maker, Thanks! for the day's work, That my Lord gives me._"[6]

Not a week after this event, one of those strange coincidences of which life is full, if we only noticed them, occurred. Lilly sent me a stirring little song on this very subject, written by Henry Newbolt, a well known lawyer of London, and I will transcribe its two last verses, because they so well ill.u.s.trate what I have said about the influence of this ancient school cry,

"The sand of the desert is sodden red, Red with the wreck of a square that broke-- The Gattling's jammed, and the Colonel dead, And the regiment blind with dust and smoke.

The River of Death has brimmed his banks, And England's far, and Honour's a name, But the voice of a schoolboy rallies the ranks, '_Play up! play up! and play the game!_'

"This is the word that year by year, While in her place the school is set, Every one of her sons must hear, And none that hears it, dare forget.

This, they all with a joyful mind, Bear through life like a torch aflame, And falling fling to the host behind-- '_Play up! play up! and play the game!_'"

The agreement made between my daughters and myself to play the game together, and not apart, was faithfully kept through many changeful years. It would seem that literature in the shape I followed it then, might be a rather monotonous life. We found it full of interest and variety. There was always something to tell, or some plan to talk over, when we gathered for our evening meal. For one event leads to another, and that often in the most unforeseen manner. Thus, in the present agreement, Mary had decided to take care of the family sewing, but she quickly pointed out to me, that material for winter garments must be bought immediately, and I promised to try and go with her in the afternoon. I had thought of this necessity during the night, and had come then to a conclusion, I had once thought nothing would ever make me accept.

I had a valuable ring, a diamond guard to my wedding ring. I had not worn it since we left Galveston, and its disappearance had not been named. I could not bear to speak of it, and I dare say the children thought I had sold it for some necessity. But I felt that I must now part with it, and I experienced real, palpable pain, when I came to this conclusion; my heart ached just as my head might have ached, and I hope none of my readers will ever have to thole such suffering. It does not seem worth while for any of them to be sorry for a woman, who had a heartache about the loss of a diamond ring. Well, it was not the diamonds; it was the memories hidden in their s.h.i.+ning depths.

One Sunday afternoon while I was strolling with my lover in the laurel woods round the Salutation Inn at Lake Windermere, Robert gave it to me. It was then just three months before our marriage, and ever after, it had been a.s.sociated with some of the sweetest episodes of our happy life together. Three or four times since my widowhood, I had been in such extremity, that I had resolved to turn it into gold, but every time something happened which saved my amulet.

For I was superst.i.tious about it. To me it was an amulet. I believed that while I wore it in my breast, Robert would remember me, and in times of perplexity and trouble, help and counsel. Every one has some superst.i.tion. I say "every one" with consideration, and from a rather extensive knowledge of personal superst.i.tions. The richest, shrewdest, most truly religious man I ever knew, had two or three apparently very silly ones; yet they ruled his life, and in some measure his enormous business, and he told me he had never defied them, but to his sorrow or loss. So I must not be too much blamed for having a very tender superst.i.tion about my ring, and a strong reluctance to part with it.

I waited all night for the premonition that something would happen this time also to save the ring, but no whisper of comfort, no sign of salvation came, and when I awoke in the morning, it was with the conviction that I must now part with this very last memento of a life forever gone from me. With tears I took it out of the little pocket, which I had made for it in the bosom of my dress, and dropped it into my purse. Then I went to the breakfast table, and found the children so happy over their new plans, that I could not bear to dash their hopes and enthusiasms by any mention of the sad duty before me.

We talked for an hour about the kind of dresses wanted, and neither Mary nor Lilly were extravagant in their desires. Lilly only stipulated that she would like a dark blue cloth, because that color suited her, and Mary said, with a comical little laugh, "I don't care so much about color, Mamma, but do not dress us alike. I don't want to hear people say, 'They are the two Miss Barrs, ill.u.s.trated by Black Watch tartan dresses;' for you know, Mamma, dear, you have an unquenchable taste for Black Watch tartan." I could not help laughing at the accusation, for I acknowledge that to this day, the sombre, handsome tints of the Black Watch regiment attract me.

"You see, Mamma," she added, "we are not going to live in Scotland, and in New York I have noticed dark sage green with pale blue tr.i.m.m.i.n.gs is in favor. I should like to be in the fas.h.i.+on. I don't care about color. Any color suits me."

So with laughter and happy voices in my ears, and a little tremor in my heart, I turned into Broadway. My fear was now, that I should not be able to sell my ring, and so bring disappointment and waiting to those whose happiness was my first concern. I had no clear idea where to go, but I thought on Broadway I would be likely to find the best jewelry stores, and I considered myself very clever, when I cunningly resolved, not to take the first offer made me, but to ask at least in three different places.

About Fourteenth Street I met a policeman, a fat, rosy, good-natured-looking man, and I asked where the best jewelry store could be found. He walked a few steps with me, and then pointed out Tiffany's in Union Square.

"They are clean gentlemen there," he said, "and they'll neither charge you too much--nor give you too little."

So I went to Tiffany's, and a very pleasant gentleman asked me what I wished. I took my ring out of my purse, and showing it to him, said, "I have to sell this ring. Will you buy it?"

He looked at the ring, and then at me, and said, "It is a beautiful ring. I am sorry you have to part with it."