Over the Fireside with Silent Friends Part 11

_Faith_

A few days after the receipt of the picture I discovered the artist and went to "beard him in his den." While I was talking with him, he declared that he had just received a "message" from this spirit to draw me a picture which, it was inferred, would convey some "recollection"

to me. Sitting at the other side of an ordinary desk, the artist picked up one piece of chalk after another, making a series of circular marks over the paper. This went on for nearly an hour-and-a-half.

Occasionally something like a definite design seemed to come out of all this chaos in chalk, if I may so express it, only to be rubbed out again immediately, the circular movements still continuing. Then at last, a few vigorous strokes, and suddenly a definite picture came out, a picture which was continued until it was finally complete. This picture represented a tall arch, through which the artist had painted the most beautiful effect of evening sky--the evening sky when sunset is fading into blue-green and the first stars are twinkling. And around this arch was chalked a kind of heavy festoon of drooping ostrich feathers. The picture when finished was certainly very beautiful, and I have it in my possession at the present moment. _But it conveyed absolutely nothing to me_, and certainly brought back no recollection to my memory of a previous life whatsoever. But the "medium" so thoroughly believed in his "power to convey" that I felt quite unhappy about having to confess my unfamiliarity. In fact, I left the studio--if studio it could be called--convinced by the beauty of the pictures, but still unconvinced that they were really pictures painted by a spirit artist. The only belief I did come away with was the belief that the "medium" thoroughly believed in himself and the reality behind his belief. And, in a way, I envied him; yes, I envied him, even though his faith may prove but illusory after all. For I have reached the age when I realise that I am not at all sure that men and women do really want _truth_, and that a faith which gives comfort and happiness is, for the practical purpose of going through life happily and dying in hope, a far more comforting philosophy. I, alas!

_cannot believe_ what I am not convinced is a scientifically proved fact; but I am to be pitied far more than envied for my--temperamental limitation--shall I call it? The man or woman who possesses a blind faith in something above and beyond this world is the man and woman to be envied, even though everybody cannot emulate their implicit trust.

_Spiritualism_

All the same, I do not think I shall ever dare to become a spiritualist. If you can understand my meaning, so much, so very much depends upon the truth and veracity of its tenets that I cannot go blindly forward, as so many people seem to be able to do, because I realise that disillusion would mean something so terrible that a kind of instinctive faith in another life, without reason, without scientific demonstration, seems far safer for the peace of mind. To believe in spiritualism, and then to be deceived, would be so unsettling, so devastating to the "soul," that, in my own self-defence, I prefer to be sceptical unreasonably than to be equally unreasonably believing. So many people, who have loved and lost, rush towards spiritualism demanding no real evidence whatsoever, bringing to it a kind of pa.s.sionate yearning to find therein some kind of illusion that their loved ones, who are dead, still live on waiting for reunion in another world. Such a yearning is very human, very understandable, very forgivable; but these people are the enemies of true spiritualism as a new branch of scientific speculation. I would not rob them of the glamour of their faith, since, as I have just written, I have reached that time of life when I realise that humanity does not necessarily want truth for the foundation of its happiness, but a whole-hearted faith, a belief sufficiently sublime to make the common Everyday significant in the march forward toward the Great Unknown. But I, alas! am not one of those who can merely believe because without belief my heart would be broken and my life would be drearier than the loneliest autumn twilight. I find a greater comfort in uncertain hope and a more uncertain faith. If I ever really and truly believed in spiritualism and then found, as so many people have done, alas! that the prophet of it was himself a fraud, I should be cut, as it were, from all my spiritual bearings, to flounder hopeless and broken-hearted mid the desolate wastes of agnosticism. I cannot give myself unless I am convinced that the sacrifice is for something which _I must believe_ in spite of all doubt; not entirely what I _want to believe_ because belief is full of happiness and comfort. I am of those who demand "all, or not at all." I cannot go on struggling to find security by just holding on to one false straw after another. I prefer to hope and to trust, and, although it is a dreary philosophy, I could not, if I would, exchange it for something which is false, however wonderful and beautiful.

_On Reality in People_

My one great grievance against people in the ma.s.s is that they are so very seldom real. I don't mean to say, of course, that you can walk through them like ghosts, or that, if they "gave you one straight from the shoulder," you wouldn't get a black eye. But what I mean is, that they are so very rarely their true selves; they so very rarely say what they think--or indeed think anything at all! They are so very rarely content to be merely human beings, and not some kind of walking-waxwork figure with a gramophone record inside them speaking the opinions which do not belong to them, but to some mysterious "authority" whom it is the correct thing to quote. Have you ever watched the eyes of friends talking together? I don't mean friends who are _real_ friends, friends with whom every thought is a thought shared--but the kind of familiar acquaintance who pa.s.ses for a friend in polite society, and pa.s.ses out of one's life as little missed in reality as an arm-chair which has gone to be repaired. In their eyes there is rarely any "answering light"--just a cold, gla.s.sy kind of surface, which says nothing and is as unsympathetic and as unfamiliar as a holland blind. You can tell by their expression that, in spite of all their apparent air of friendly familiarity, they are merely talking for talking's sake, merely being friendly for the sake of friends.h.i.+p; that, if they were never to see each other again, they would do so without one heartbreak. Perhaps I am unsociable, perhaps I am a bit of a misanthrope; but those kind of friends, those kind of people, bore me unutterably. I am only really happy in the society of bosom friends, or in the society of interesting strangers. The half-and-halves, the people who claim friends.h.i.+p because circ.u.mstances happened to have thrown you together fairly frequently--and one of us has a beautiful house and the other an excellent cook--these people press upon my spirit like a strait-waistcoat. I gabble the conventional small-talk of polite sociability, and I thank G.o.d when they are gone! They are called "friends," but we have absolutely nothing in common--not even a disease!

So much polite conversation is merely "polite," and can by no stretch of imagination be rightly called "conversation." It consists for the most part in exaggerated complimentary remarks--which, it is hoped, will please you--or in one person waiting impatiently while the other person relates all he and his family have been doing until he, in his turn, can seize a momentary pause for breath to begin the whole recent history of his own affairs in detail. But neither of them is really at all interested in the story of the other's doings--you can see that in their eyes, in the kind of fixed smile of simulated interest with which they listen, the while they furtively take note of the grey hair you are trying to hide, the s.h.i.+rt b.u.t.ton which will leave its moorings if something isn't done for it before long, the stain on your waistcoat denoting egg-for-breakfast and an early hurry--all the things, in fact, which really interest them to an extent and are far more thrilling anyway than the things you are telling them in so much thraldom on your own part and with so much gusto.

Some people are artificial through and through; it may be said of them that they are only really real when they are having a tooth pulled.

But the majority of people only hide themselves behind a kind of crust of artificiality; beneath that crust they were real live men and women.

And the war--thank G.o.d! (that is to say, if one ever can thank G.o.d for the war)--cracked that crust until it fell away, and was trampled under the feet of real men and women living real lives, honestly with themselves and _vis-a-vis_ the world. That is one of the reasons why the war has made social life a so much more vital and interesting state. Of course, there are some people who still strive to revive the social life of "masks," but they are the people whose crust of artificiality was only cracked--or rather chipped--by the horror and reality of war. War never really reached them, except through their stomachs and their motor cars, or perhaps in the excuse it gave them for flirting half-heartedly with some really useful human labour. They never went "over the top" in spirit, and their point of view still reeks of the point of view of the farthest back of the base. These people will be more real when they are _dead_ than while they are alive--if you can understand my meaning? But thank Heaven! their ranks are thinned. They belong to the "back of beyond," to the "frumps," the "washouts," and the "back numbers."

_Life_

Life is rather like a rocket; it shoots into the sky, flares, fades, and falls to the ground in dust so unnoticeable that you can hardly find its remnants, search how you may. Of course, I know that our lives don't really shoot upwards towards the stars to illumine the heavens by their own resplendent beams, but we usually think they're going to, sometimes we think they do, and then, when our dreams settle down to reality, we discover that our fate has been scarcely different from the crowd, and that our life stands out about as unique as one house is in a row of houses all built on the same pattern. But I sometimes think that our dreams are our real life, and that what we do is a matter of indifference to what we think and suffer and feel. Some days, when you sit in a railway carriage on the underground railways and gaze at the rows of stodgy, expressionless, flat kind of faces which the majority of the travellers possess, you say to yourself, "These people can have had no history; these people cannot have really lived; they cannot have suffered and struggled and hoped and dreamed and renounced, renounced so often with the heart frozen beyond tears."

And yet you know they must have done--perhaps they are living a whole lifetime of mental agony even as you watch them, who can tell?--because you have been "through the mill" too, you too have walked to Amaous, sat desolate in the Garden of Gethsemane, seen all your fondest dreams crucified on the Cross of Reality, and risen again, lonelier, sadder, wiser maybe, but with a wisdom which is more desolate than the wilderness. You have been through h.e.l.l, and no one has guessed, no one has seen, no one has ever, ever known. And these people, so stodgy, so expressionless, so dreary and conventional, must have been through it too. For it seems to me that we must all go through it some time or other, and the bigger, the braver your heart the greater the h.e.l.l; the more sensitive, the more susceptible you are to the love which links one human being with another, the greater your pain, the more desolate your renunciation. And, as I said before, n.o.body guesses, n.o.body believes, n.o.body ever, ever knows.

So very, very few people can see beyond the outward and visible signs of pain. They see the smile, the fretfulness--and yet they think the smile means happiness and the fretfulness an ugly, tiresome thing.

They do not perceive that often the smile is as a cry to Heaven, and that fretfulness is but the sign of a soul breaking itself against the jagged rocks of hopelessness and doubt. I often listen to the people speaking of blindness and the blind. They only see that the eyes are gone, that the glory which is spring is for ever dead; they perceive the hesitating walk, the outstretched groping hand which, to my mind, is more pitiful than the story of the Cross, and inwardly they murmur, "How awful!" and sometimes they turn away. But they have never seen the real tragedy which lies behind the visible handicap. Only their imagination is stirred by the outward and visible side of the tragedy; never--or rather, very rarely--is it haunted by the realisation of the despair which is struggling to find peace, some solution of the meaning of it all, struggling to bring back some reasoned hope and gladness, some tiny ray of light in the mental and physical darkness, without which we none of us can believe, we none of us can live. Perhaps they are wise to see so little of the real sorrow which dogs so many lives, but they, nevertheless, are blind in their turn. They are wise, because there is a whole wise philosophy of a sort in being deaf to the song within the song, blind to the tears which no one sees, to the trembling lip which is the aftermath of--oh, so many smiles. The philosopher perceives just enough of the heart-beat of the world to keep the human touch, but not enough to kill the outbursts of unreasoned joy which make the picture of life so exhilarating and jolly. And yet . . . and yet . . . oh yes, happiness _does_ lie in remembering little, perceiving less, and in pinning your love and faith in G.o.d--in human love, in human grat.i.tude, in human unselfishness scarcely at all. Happiness, I say, lies thus--but alas! not everybody can or ever will be happy. They feel too greatly--and if in intense feeling there is divine beauty, there is also incalculable pain. When the "ingrate" is turned out of Heaven they do not send him to h.e.l.l, they send him to Earth and give him imagination and a heart.

_Dreams and Reality_

So many people imagine that their love is returned, that their innermost thoughts are appreciated and understood, when lips meet lips in that kiss which brings oblivion--that kiss which even the lowliest man and woman receive once in their lives as a benediction from Heaven.

So many people imagine that they have found the Ideal Friend when they meet someone with an equal admiration for the poems of Robert Browning; or the Russian Ballet, or one who places the music of Debussy above the music of Wagner. But, I fear, they are often disappointed. For the longer I live, the more convinced I become that Love and Friends.h.i.+p are but "day dreams" of the "soul,"--that all we can ever possess in Life is the second-best of both. n.o.body in Love, or in the first throes of a new friends.h.i.+p, will believe me, of course. Why should they? There are moments in both love and friends.h.i.+p when the "dream" does seem to become a blissful reality. But they pa.s.s--they pa.s.s . . . leaving us once more lonely in the wilderness of the Everyday, wondering if, after all, those splendid moments which are over were ever anything more than merely the figments of our own imagination and had nothing whatever to do with the love we believed was ours, the friends.h.i.+p which seemed to come towards us with open arms--that the Dream and the Hope, and the fulfilment of both, merely lived and died in our own hearts alone--in our own hearts and nowhere . . . alas! nowhere else. I often think it must be so. Our love is always the same; only the loved-one changes.

G.o.d alone is a permanent Ideal because He lives within us--we never meet Him as a separate ent.i.ty. Thus we can never become disillusioned.

_Love of G.o.d_

Yet, it seems to me sometimes that even our ideal of G.o.d changes with the fleeting years. When we were young, and because He was thus presented to us by our spiritual pastors and masters, we figured Him as some tragically revengeful elderly gentleman, who appeared to show His love for us by always being exceedingly vindictive. Then when Fate, as it were, thrust us from the confines of our homes into the storm of life alone, we came to think of the G.o.d-Ideal in blind anger. We cried that He was dead, or deaf; that He was not a G.o.d of Love at all, but cruel . . . more cruel than Mankind. Sometimes we denied that He had ever existed at all; that all the Church told us about Him was so much "fudge," and that Heaven and h.e.l.l, the punishment of Sin, the reward of Virtue, were all part of the Great Human Hoax by which Man is cheated and ensnared. "We will be hoaxed no more!" we cried, little realising that this is invariably the Second Stage along the road by which thinking men approaches G.o.d.

The Third Stage, when it came, found us older, wiser, far less inclined to cry "d.a.m.n" in the face of the Angels. We began to realise that through pain we had become purified; through hards.h.i.+p we had become kind; through suffering, and in the silence of our own thoughts we had become wise; through our inner-loneliness--that inner-loneliness which is part of the "cross" which each man carries with him through Life, we had found the _blind necessity_ of G.o.d.

And in this fas.h.i.+on he returns to us. He is not the same G.o.d as of old (we listen to the pictures of this Old G.o.d as He is so often described from the pulpit, in contemptuous amazement, tinged by disdain), but a far greater G.o.d than He--greater, for the reason that we have become greater too. We no longer seek to find Him in our hours of happiness--the only hours when, long ago, we sought to feel His presence. We _know_ that we shall only find Him in our hours of loneliness, in our hours of desolation, in our hours of black despair.

Now at last we realise that G.o.d is not some Deity apart, but some spirit within _us_, within every man and woman whose "vision" is turned towards the stars. He is the "Dream" which is clearer to us than reality, none the less clear because it is the "Dream" which never in life comes true. He belongs to us and to the whole world. He is everywhere, yet nowhere. He is the "soul" in Man, the silent message in beauty, the miracle in all Nature. He is not a Divinity, living in some far off bourne we call the sky. He is just that "spirit" in all men's hearts which is the spirit of their self-sacrifice, of their charity, of their loving kindness, of their honesty, their uprightness and their truth. It is the "spirit" which, if men be Immortal, will surely live on and on for ever. Nothing else is worthy immortality.

_The Will to Faith_

I wish that the great Shakespeare had not written that "immortal" line:

"_The wish is father to the Thought._"

It haunts you throughout your life. Like a flaming sign of interrogation it burns upon the Altar of Faith Unquestioning, before which, in your perplexity, Fate forces you--at least once in your life--to bow the head. It makes us wonder if we should believe all the evidences of Immortality we do--were Immortality really a state of Punishment and not of Happiness unspeakable. It is so hard, so very hard, to disentangle our own desires from our own beliefs; so easy to confuse what we _ought to believe_ with what, beyond all else, _we want to believe_. It sometimes makes one chary of believing anything--in questions Human as well as Eternal. The "Personal Bias"--ever in our heart of hearts can we at all times decide where it ends and impartiality begins? Even our so-called impartiality is tinged by it--or what we fondly believe to be our impartial Faith. Doubt strikes at the root of Justice and of Love--not the doubt that is the half-brother to Disbelief, but the doubt which wonders always and always if we believe most easily what we _want to believe_, and if our firmest conviction against such Belief is not, more than anything else, yet one more manifestation of what we desire so earnestly _to doubt_.

Sometimes I am in despair regarding the whole question of my own individual Faith.

I am firmly convinced that there _ought to be a G.o.d_ and a Life Hereafter. But my faith in such facts is paralysed by the haunting doubt that they may both be such stuff as dreams are made of, after all.

On the whole, I believe the best way is not to think about them at all--or as little as we may. The one question which really and truly concerns us--and most certainly only concerns G.o.d, if there be a G.o.d--in His relation to ourselves, is _this life_ and what we make of it for ourselves and for other people. Don't ask yourself always and for ever _if_ there be a G.o.d? _Act as if He existed_! So far as possible, _play His part on earth_. Then all will surely be well with your Immortal Soul in the Long Here After!

And, if the reward of it all--if "reward" is what you seek--be but a Sleep Eternal, do not weep. If you have done your best, you will have left the world happier and better, and so more beautiful. To those around you, to those who walked with you a little way along the Road of Life, you will have brought Hope where before you came there was only resignation and despair; you will have brought laughter to eyes long dimmed by tears; you will have brought Love into lives so lonely and so desolate until you came. G.o.d surely can ask of no man more than this.

That, at least--is my Faith. That is also my "religion." Theology is unimportant: FACTS, concerning the reality of G.o.d and a Life Hereafter--matter little or nothing at all.

What is all-important is that _here on Earth_--in the world of men and women around us--there are many less happy than we; many infinitely lonelier, poorer, more desolate and depressed. To these--even the lowliest among us can give comfort, bring into their darkness some little ray of "light"--however small.

Let the "Christian" Churches quarrel as they may. The uproar of their differences in Faith, each seeking to be justified, is stilled before the Great Reality of those really and truly in Human NEED. Let us do all the good we may--nor ask the reason why, nor seek a heavenly reward. At every step we take along the Road of Life--there is someone we can help, someone we can succour, someone we can forgive. A truce to violent controversy around and around the Trivial. True religion is an _Act_--even more than a Belief, infinitely more than mere articles of Faith. By the greatness of our sacrifice, by the unselfishness of our Love; by the way we have tried to live up to "the best" within us; by our earnest wish at all times, and with all men--to "play the game"--surely by these things alone shall we be judged?

FINIS.

_BY THE SAME AUTHOR_

WITH SILENT FRIENDS THE SECOND BOOK OF SILENT FRIENDS Pa.s.sION AND POT-POURRI